The story of man and woman; a study of the sexual relationship in this life and the life to come: its physiology, psychology, morals and theology

Front matter

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Foreword

It is an evidence of an awakened interest in an important subject that a great many books have recently been pub¬ lished on the sexes and their relation; many in English on both sides of the Atlantic, and many in German as well as in French, Italian and nearly every other European language: but I am confident that among them all there is no book just like this one. I think even those who have read extensively in the literature of the subject will find this volume to be “something different.”

DAVID P. JACKSON. M. D.

Book I

I. THE FIRST PAIR. 11

Love a Reality. The First Pair of Lovers. Eden a Scientific Necessity. Man not Good Alone.

The Creation of Eve. The First Home. Contrectation. Sex a Special Endowment for Mankind. The Yearning for a Mate. Reason for the Creation of Eve. The Reason for Mar¬ riage. Amativeness and Conjugality. The Beneficent Power of Sexual Love. A Love Story. A British Medical Man’s Opinion. A Wonderful Period of Life. Recapitulation.

II. TWAIN ONE FLESH. 35

Their Bodies as One Body. “Flesh of My Flesh.” Telegony. What Real Marriage Is. Rape and Seduction Worse than Murder. The Physio¬ logical Effects of Marriage. Potent Influence of the Sex Glands. Eunuchs. “The Glory of the Man.” Stages of a Girl’s Development. The False View of Marriage Given by Evolution.

III. THE SPIRIT OF MAN . 54

Man’s Marvelous Body. Sin Cause of Death.

Man Not Immortal. The Mysterious Vital Force.

Life Different from Matter. Life also Different from all the Physical Forces. The Power of Thought of the Spirit (or Mind). Identity and Personality. The Logos Become Man. Marvelous Powers of the Spirit of Life. The Apostle’s Illustration of the Spirit of Life. The Soul. Individuality of the Life Force. Immortality. Souls. Dead Souls and the Future Life. Mortal and Immortal. The Question of a Future. Life. Spiritualism.

IV. HUMAN AND SPIRIT NATURES DISTINCT. 81

Change of Nature Possible. Man’s Future Life to be on Earth. Sex and Marriage a Funda-

CONTENTS mental Law of Human Nature. Sex Love Inclusive of all other Affections. Beauty not Vanity but Expression of Value.

V. THE TEMPTATION AND FALL . 92

Jehovah’s Government. Heylel, the Bright One.

The Temptation of Eve. Satan as an Angel of Light. No Magic about the Forbidden Tree.

The Nature of the First Sin. The Primeval Lie. Tragedy and Despair. Adam’s Sin a Serious One. Horror of the Penalty of Death. God’s Unchanging Laws. The Promised Seed of the Woman.

VI. THE FALL CAUSE OF THE DEPRAVITY

AND DEGRADATION OF MANKIND .... 108

Death a Horrible Thing. The Causes of Death. Unsoundness of Mind. Human Vileness and Dishonor. A Horrible Chapter of History. The Various Forms of Attack Made on Sexual Morality. Prostitution. Prudery. Plain Evi¬ dence of the Fall of Man. A Dark Picture. The Habitations of Cruelty. The Groaning Creation.

VII. THE DIVINE PLAN OF THE AGES . 130

The Creative Periods. Evolution Guesswork. God’s Foreordained Plan of Salvation. The Man Christ Jesus. Ransomed from the Grave. The Little Flock. Locating Ourselves on the Stream of Time. The Kingdom of God at Hand. The Times of the Gentiles. “Thy Kingdom Come.”

The Restored Earth. A World-Wide Government. Vain Hopes and Plans. A Bankrupt World. A Sample Kingdom. All Crime to be Prevented. Social Reforms. Submit or Perish. Heaven and Paradise. Some to go to Heaven. Paradise to be Restored. Life in Paradise Restored. The Joy of Beauty. No Pain, Sickness, or Death.

“Joy Cometh in the Morning.”

VIII. HUSBAND AND WIFE IN PARADISE RE¬ STORED ... 168

Spirit Beings Without Sex. A Class that Will Marry in the Resurrection. Saved Through Child- Bearing. The Shunammite Woman. Levirate Marriages. Restored Mankind to be Parents.

CONTENTS

Sex and Marriage to Continue Forever. Twain One Flesh. The Real Unit of the Race. Divorce. Mankind Never to be Sexless. The Happy Pairs in Paradise Restored. Prophetic Pictures of Future Events. Child-Bearing to Cease. Marriage Ordinances Given to Moses. The Sexes Forever Distinct. A Peculiar Law. The Law of Uncleanness. “When Love Comes of Age.” Family Life in Paradise Restored. Home, Sweet Home. Polygamy. The Change of Life in Women. “Rejoice in the Wife of Thy Youth.” The Marital Relation to Continue. Other Purposes Beside Reproduction.

Book II

IX. A CHAPTER FOR YOUNG PEOPLE . 203

Boys and Girls. Instruction in True Modesty. Childish Love Affairs. Almost Fourteen. Puberty and the Menses. An Interesting Age. “Girls, go Slow.” The Test of Contrectation. A Girl’s Charm and Value Enhanced by Reserve. Select¬ ing a Life-Mate. Animal Desire not the First Stage of Love. Proper and Improper Dances. Engaged Couples. Wedding Journeys. The Boy’s Part in Courtship. The Romantic Element in Mating. His New Interest in Girls. Chivalry. Providential Guidance. Popping the Question.

The Course of True Love. Engaged. Con¬ trectation and Detumescense.

X. FOR MARRIED PEOPLE ON THE ART OF

LOVE. 238

The Wedding Night. “Who Follows Pleasure, Pleasure Slays.” The Sacrament of Love. Love’s Memory to be Kept Green. Activity Necessary to Life. Marriage Honorable in All. Why Jesus Did not Marry. The Eternal Feminine.

Appendix

THE STORY OF MAN AND WOMAN

BOOK I

The

Story of Man and Woman

1. The two most interesting beings in the world are MAN and WOMAN, and their relation to each other is a very important subject, for sex is the fore¬ most fact in human nature. This book treats of the origin, history and destiny of man and woman with special reference to the nature of the relation of the sexes as lovers and sweethearts and husbands and wives, not only in the present life but also in the life to come, from the standpoint of both science and the Bible. In regard to the relation of the sexes in the future life in Paradise Restored, the Scriptures give much interesting information which has been generally overlooked.

2 . The dominating influence which sex exerts (and which the Creator intended it to exert) upon mankind, makes the relation of the sexes a subject which is of interest and importance to every one, young or old, married or single, male or female. Although the sub¬ ject is of such close interest and universal importance, much ignorance exists about it and false and injurious views prevail. Information and instruction are badly needed. The greater part of human happiness depends on this relation and most of the activities of mankind at all places and at all periods of time have centered around this fundamental element of our nature. A little reflection will convince anyone of its importance and show how it dominates human life from the most trivial everyday matters to the most important affairs of the world: from the sewing on of buttons to the most romantic adventure: from common daily occupa¬ tions to the actions of men that cause revolutions in the condition of the world. It may bring the deepest misery when abused or deranged, or be a source of the highest and purest joy and happiness that it is possible for human beings to experience. Next to life itself, sex is the most mysterious and the most important element in human nature.

“All thoughts, all passions, all delights, Whatever stirs this mortal frame,

All are but ministers to love,

And feed his sacred flame.”

“Love rules the court, the camp, the grove,

And men below and saints above,

For love is heaven and heaven is love.”

3 . The love which unites two persons in “one flesh” is an unfathomable mystery which we may try to describe but which it is impossible to define or com¬ pletely to understand. “There is no word more often pronounced than that of love, yet there is no subject more mysterious.” Herbert Spencer, in his character¬ istic, analytical way, has endeavored to give a list of the component parts of love as follows: ( 1 ) The physical impulse of sex; ( 2 ) the feeling for beauty; ( 3 ) affection; ( 4 ) admiration and respect; ( 5 ) love of approbation; ( 6 ) self-esteem; ( 7 ) a feeling of ownership; ( 8 ) extended liberty of action from the absence of personal barriers; ( 9 ) the exaltation of the sympathies. He says this passion fuses into one immense aggregate most of the elementary excitations of which we are capable. (See par. 129 .)

4. Love a Reality.—The importance of love is as great as its mystery for the exaltation produced by love is not a delusion or an insanity, but is one of the most substantial facts of life. Says Havelock Ellis, the great English authority, in his The Psychology of Sex (F. A. Davis Company): ‘Tor most people, and those not the least sane or the least wise, the memory of the exaltation of love, even when the period of that exaltation is over, still remains as the memory of one of the most real and essential facts of life.” Malthus, one of the profoundest thinkers of his day, wrote: “Perhaps there is scarcely a man who has once experienced the genuine delight of virtuous love, however great his intellectual pleasures may have been, that does not look back to the period as the sunny spot in his whole life, where his imagination loves to bask, which he recollects and contemplates with the fondest regrets, and which he would most wish to live over again.”

5 . Love, maintains Ellis, is the most solid of reali¬ ties. All the progressive forms of life are built up on the attraction of sex. Not only the physical structure of life, but also its spiritual structure; our social feel¬ ings, our morality, our religion, our poetry and art, are, in some degree at least, built up on the impulse of sex and would have been, if not non-existent, cer¬ tainly altogether different, had other than sexual methods of propagation prevailed in the world. Schiller, the great German poet and philosopher, said the whole edifice of life is built up on hunger and love. It would be easy to multiply citations tending to show how many diverse thinkers have come to the conclu¬ sion that sexual love (including therewith parental, and especially maternal, love) is the source of the chief manifestations of life. Towards the end of his life Renan set down his conviction that love after all is the supreme thing in the world. The great astronomer and mathematician, Laplace, half an hour before his death took up a volume of his own Mecanique Celeste and said, “All that is only trifles; there is nothing true but love.” Comte, the author of The Positive Phil¬ osophy , wrote: “There is nothing real in the world but love. One grows tired of thinking, and even of act¬ ing; one never grows tired of loving. I have never ceased to feel that the essential of happiness is that the heart should be worthily filled.”

6 . The great minds of the world seem all to say that love is the one thing that is supremely worth while. The greatest and most brilliant of the world's intel¬ lectual giants, in their moments of final insight, reach the level of the humble in esteeming love to be “the greatest thing in the world.”

7. The First Pair of Lovers.—The only way to discover what the Creator intended men and women to be, is to study the pair He created, because, since their creation, sin, misery, poverty and hardship have caused mankind to degenerate more and more, until in the course of six thousand years all men have lost the perfection of body and mind in which the first pair were made. Some have sunk to the condition of bums, tramps and criminals, and whole tribes have deteriorated into mere savages, hardly resembling human beings. Instead of taking the first pair as a sample of what men should be, modern writers, blinded by the theory of evolution, take these degraded savages as the example of the natural state of man. The fact is that savages are in a very unnatural state. {See par. n, 12 , 67 , 170 , 202 , 206 .)

8 . In order that we may gain a clear knowledge of this mysterious human relation of sex let us examine the story of the first pair of lovers, the first husband and wife, and learn why it was that in the beginning they were created male and female and the two joined in a union which made them one flesh. The Creator could have adopted some other method for reproduc¬ ing the race. He has shown that this was possible by the examples He has given us among the lower forms of life. Some humble forms multiply by division. That is, the parent divides into two new individuals and so on continually. Some, like the oyster, repro¬ duce by budding. The young animal buds out from the parent and grows into a complete new creature. Some have both the male and female organs of repro¬ duction located in one individual. We see that God could have arranged some other way to multiply our race, but how much of human pleasure and happiness would have been lost if He had not created them male and female.

9 . When man was created the earth was already inhabited by numerous species of creatures who were superior to man in certain qualities, such as strength of body, swiftness of locomotion and ability to defend themselves or to attack others. These animals were armed with natural weapons, something which man lacks. He was unarmed and defenseless. There were large, strong, swift animals, such as the lion and tiger, which were flesh eaters and were moved by a fierce desire to capture and devour other creatures which, like man, were weaker than themselves. In mere ani¬ mal and physical powers man was very weak. His superiority was due to his mind and its instrument, the brain, which in man was larger and more finely organ¬ ized than in the brutes; also to his upright posture which turned his face toward God; to the delicate and refined beauty of his face and form; to his wonder¬ fully designed hand, which was adapted to be a fit i6 instrument for the execution of the ideas and purposes of his God-like mind and without which that mind would have been of little use. Man is the only animal possessing a true hand.

io. He had a delicate and refined digestive system which required a special food, but with this special food to sustain his life he was capable of living for¬ ever on earth. (Gen. 3:22.) Although, like the beasts, he was an earthly creature and resembled the lower animals in many ways, his body was so much more highly organized than theirs and his mind so exalted, that he was adapted for the society and fellow¬ ship of angels, with whom he could converse when they manifested themselves to him in a material form; and he could commune with the Lord of heaven and earth in whose image he had been created. For these reasons he was worthy of everlasting life on earth and the Creator had not subjected him to the law of limited existence and death which prevailed among the lower animals. His body was built up of billions of microscopic cells and he was endowed with the power, when supplied with a perfect food and surrounded by a perfect environment such as he had in Eden, of replacing each cell, as soon as it became worn out, with a new cell so that his tissues and organs remained always young, conferring on man perpetual youth.

10a. I made the statement in the above paragraph on the ground of the facts of physiology and I first made it in print in a medical journal more than twenty years ago. Since writing paragraph 10, the Rocke¬ feller Institute for Medical Research has announced the result of an experiment it has been conducting for ten years which confirms my statement by a special scientific test. I quote the following from The Liter¬ ary Digest, Feb. 17, 1923, p. 27:

“Do Cells Live Forever? Cells isolated over ten years ago from the heart of an unhatched chick are still growing with undiminished vigor. This would indicate, says Science Service’s Daily Science News Bulletin (Washington), that the unit of life—the cell —is immortal when it lives in an environment where proper conditions of food supply and temperature are maintained and one in which its waste products are removed. We are told:

“ ‘Dr. A. H. Ebeling of the Rockefeller Institute for Medical Research reports that these cells which have been kept on artificial food still reproduce a new cell exactly like themselves every forty-eight hours just as the original cell has done 1825 times before, even though the life of the chicken is of much shorter dura¬ tion than that length of time. With men the problem of immortality is far more complex, for here we find millions of cells which require a variety of conditions for a favorable environment. If we may apply this discovery to man, it would be expected that any one of these millions of cells would be immortal if left to itself under proper conditions. Prof. Raymond Pearl, of Johns Hopkins University, believes this to be the case and that man’s mortality is caused by the inability of the cells to adjust themselves to their neighbors.’ ”

11 . Eden a Scientific Necessity.—If the physi¬ cally weak and unprotected first pair, when they first appeared on the earth, had been exposed to a struggle for existence (such as the theory of Evolution sup¬ poses), with the fierce lower animals, they would have been torn to pieces and devoured; or would have per¬ ished from the effects of an inclement climate and unsuitable food. A little reflection on the natural facts and conditions shows the scientific necessity for just such a safe and secure habitation for the first pair as the Book of Genesis describes. The human race could not have commenced existence without a Garden i8 of Eden. The details of the method by which the Creator brought the first man into existence are not given in the Bible but no difference by what method man may imagine he was produced, even if it be by evolution, the fact remains that when the first pair became human beings with the form and faculties of mankind they would at first have been weak and help¬ less in a contest with the large carnivorous animals which abounded; or, if they had escaped the ravenous beasts, they would have perished if exposed to the vicissitudes of a severe climate, or if not provided with the refined food which their delicate digestive organs required.

12. An evolutionary process, such as so many imagine produced the first man by natural selection and the survival of those best fitted to contend with the conditions, would have developed the more beastly qualities, not the human qualities in man, because only superior beastly qualities would have enabled him to compete with the other beasts under such circum¬ stances. It would have been those who developed better teeth and claws and greater brute strength, that would have survived, not those with more human qualities. Natural selection develops the cheapest, not the highest and best.

12 a. In order, then, that the first pair of His earthly children might survive it was necessary that God should prepare a place for them which was provided with their natural food, and where they could be secure and protected until they could have time to learn to use their minds and hands, and by means of them obtain superiority over the other creatures and gain a control over the forces of nature. For this reason God prepared a garden for them “eastward in Eden” in which grew the trees and plants that bore their life-sustaining food. Here they were protected from inclement weather and the severities of climate, so that they did not even need clothes. No disease-producing bacteria were there and they had no kind of sickness. They were safe from accidents and catastrophies of all kinds and from war. They were free from the sin and moral evil that now do so much to shorten life and produce disease. Their occupations were safe and wholesome. The nature of their bodily organization and the conditions of their environment were such that the life force imparted to them by the Creator when He “breathed into their nostrils the breath of life,” could continue unimpaired forever, giving them perpetual health and youth and beauty. Time and age would not bring decay. They would only produce experience and wisdom and give greater power.

13 . Man Not Good Alone.—For a time the man had no mate and was alone. He was restless and dis¬ satisfied, notwithstanding his perfect surroundings, because God had left him deficient and incomplete in one important respect. He was complete as a male but not as a human being. It was not good for man to be alone; he required a wife to complete his nature. Without Eve his beautiful abode was a dreary place to him. He searched among all the animals belonging to his order; that is, the animals that had a backbone (vertebrate animals), and that were also mammals and suckled their young. These animals manifested the wisdom and power of the Creator and Adam gave them names; but although some of them, such as the higher apes, much resembled man yet not one of them had the qualities he needed in a mate that would “answer to him” and complete his being. (Gen. 2:20, margin.)

14. From the brief but suggestive description given in Genesis we can picture how eagerly Adam scanned each animal presented to his view, hoping it would prove to be the mate he needed, but he was always dis¬ appointed. None of these creatures belonged to his plane of existence; they were not made in the image of God; they were not of his flesh. They could not supply the organs and the form of body, the qualities of heart and mind, which he lacked, and could not complete his being or relieve the loneliness and dis¬ satisfaction which even the perfection of Eden could not alleviate when he had no mate. Without his other self he was a lonely hermit, even in Paradise.

15. When Adam had been brought by experience to a full realization of his deficiency the Creator said, “It is not good that the man should be alone. I will make him a help answering to him.” That is, He would create another human being that would be Adam’s complement and supply what he lacked; a being that would furnish an object for the affection with which the man had been endowed, and who would call into exercise the powers and faculties of body and mind which constituted him a male human being. Without his mate and “help answering to him” his life would have been incomplete and aimless, self-centered and selfish.

16 . The Creation cf Eve.—God caused “a deep sleep” to fall upon Adam. (Gen. 2:21.) In this state of suspended animation he passed through a reproduc¬ tive stage of creation. The bony and other tissues of his side, comprehended under the term, “one of his ribs,” budded and developed under the plastic hand of God until finally another human being was pro¬ duced, so much like Adam, and yet so very different. Both forms as they lay there side by side were the crown of all creation in beauty and dignity, but the square outlines of the man’s body, showing strength and courage, were softened to graceful curves in the woman’s face and form, giving her a delicate and refined beauty “more winning soft, more amiably mild” than the manly beauty of Adam.

“For contemplation he, and valor formed,

For softness she, and sweet attractive grace.”

17. Before Adam awakened from his “deep sleep” Eve was removed from his side and passed a little time by herself before being presented to her husband. In the interval both were instructed in regard to the nature of their union and the intimate relation that would exist between them. When the Lord brought her to him (Gen. 2:22), and she became his wife, his long search for a companion was ended. When they each beheld the other their hearts filled with the affec¬ tion which is the acme of all human bliss: wedded love, the mysterious force which makes two individuals one flesh. Now he was never alone and never lonely. By his side was his other self, ravishing him with her beauty, filling him with bliss by her caresses, multiply¬ ing his joys and pleasures by sharing them, making all his thoughts her own. The Creator had brought him the very creature he needed to complete his being. She, like himself, was made in the image of God. She belonged to his plane of existence, and was a part of himself, bone of his bones and flesh of his flesh. Her body, mind and heart, joined with his, supplied every lack, satisfied every longing.

18. Their nuptials were celebrated by the Creator Himself, and they commenced the journey of life together.

“So hand in hand they passed, the loveliest pair That ever since in love’s embraces met.

Adam the goodliest man of men since bom His sons; the fairest of her daughters Eve.

For contemplation he, and valor formed,

For softness she, and sweet attractive grace.

“His hyacinthine locks

Round from his parted forehead manly hung.

She, as a veil, down to her slender waist Her unadorned golden tresses wore Dishevelled, but in wanton ringlets waved As the vine curls her tendrils; which implied Subjection, but required with gentle sway;

And by her yielded, by him best received With coy submission, modest pride,

And sweet, reluctant, amorous delay.

“So passed they naked on, nor shunned the sight Of God or angel, for they thought no ill.

Nor gentle purpose, nor endearing smiles Wanted, nor youthful dalliance as beseems Fair couple linked in happy nuptial league Alone as they.”

19 . The First Home.—Thus the great poet, John Milton, describes the first pair of lovers the world had ever seen; the founders of the first home. A home, a spot that is the center and abode of love, is necessary to satisfy the human nature of a united pair, and Adam and Eve would at once select a spot for a home as naturally as birds build a nest. Little would be required at first. It would be some leafy bower beside one of the streams of Paradise. From this they would set out in the morning to their light and pleas¬ ant labor in the Garden “to dress and to keep it.” (Gen. 2:15.) To this spot they would return at even¬ ing for refreshment and repose. Here they would hold converse with the embodied angels who min¬ istered unto them, and gave them the instruction and information they needed until they could learn them¬ selves from the great teacher, experience.

20. Here they would sit, “imparadised in one another’s arms,” and talk of the many things that are of high mutual interest to a pair of lovers, however trifling they may seem to others. Adam would tell Eve of his long, vain search for a suitable companion among the previously created earthly beings, and of his joy and satisfaction when the Lord had brought her to him “blushing like the mom” and she became his wife. She would tell him how she had longed to find him when the Lord told her of the mate who was waiting for her, and how gladly she had surrendered herself to him, with all the wealth of charms of body, mind and heart with which the Creator had endowed her as her wedding portion, fitting her to be the queen of the world of which Adam was the king.

21. Their affection made close association a pleasure because God, in forming the plan for two individuals in one flesh, made it a law of human nature that this special affection should be principally manifested by the mysterious sense of touch. If love exists between a human pair of opposite sex they are instinctively drawn together in the close personal contact of em¬ brace and kiss. The most unhappy people in the world must be those married pairs who have wedded from some other motive than mutual love and are com¬ pelled to pass their lives in close personal relation, although personal contact gives no pleasure, or may even cause a feeling of aversion. As all material bodies on the earth are in a state of either a positive or negative electrical condition in regard to each other, so human beings are in a state of either sexual attrac¬ tion or of anti-sexual repulsion in regard to each other. For husband and wife to feel anti-sexual repulsion is a very unhappy condition.

22 . Contrectation.—The touch of affection is so important, and so special, that it has been given a spe¬ cial name by those who treat of the psychology of sex. It is called "contrectation.” Contrectation is the pleas¬ ure derived from the near presence and personal con¬ tact of the loved one and is one of the characteristics which separate the true union of husband and wife from the mating of the lower animals. It gives a feeling of satisfaction and pleasure in the close pres¬ ence of husband and wife, or lover and sweetheart, and causes uneasiness and dissatisfaction if the loved one is absent. For this reason the pair who are united in the God-intended way never tire of each other’s society. (See par. 31.)