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Woman's guide to sexual knowledge

Elizabeth J. Willard · 1906 · Scanned text · Free in the US

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Author
Elizabeth J. Willard
Language
English
Published
1906
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200,442 words · about 14 h 2 min
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50 reader sections
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Contents (50)
  1. Front matter about 2 min
  2. Preface about 2 min
  3. Chapter I. Courtship And Marriage under 1 min
  4. Chapter II. Physical Laws Of Marriage under 1 min
  5. Chapter III. Happy And Unhappy" Marriages under 1 min
  6. Chapter IV. The Perfect Female Form under 1 min
  7. Chapter V. The Female Pelvis under 1 min
  8. Chapter VI. Female Organs Of Generation under 1 min
  9. Chapter VII. The Human Ovaries under 1 min
  10. Chapter VIII. Effect Of Impregnating The Ovum under 1 min
  11. Chapter IX. Normal Process Of Menstruation under 1 min
  12. Chapter X. Our American Girls under 1 min
  13. Chapter XI. Wonders Of Generation under 1 min
  14. CHAPTER XII. WONDERS OF GENERATION.— (Continued.) under 1 min
  15. Chapter XIII. Pregnancy Or Gestation under 1 min
  16. Chapter XIV, Maladies During Pregnancy under 1 min
  17. Chapter XV. Labor— Its Proper Treatment under 1 min
  18. Chapter XVI. Lactation Or Food For Infants under 1 min
  19. Chapter XVII. The Change Of Life under 1 min
  20. Chapter XVIII. Diseases Of Women under 1 min
  21. CHAPTER XIX. DISEASES OF WOMEN— (Continued) under 1 min
  22. CHAPTER XX. DISEASES OF WOMEN— (Concluded) under 1 min
  23. Chapter XXI. Healthy And Robust Children under 1 min
  24. Chapter XXII. Physical Training Of Children under 1 min
  25. Chapter XXIII. Diseases Of Children under 1 min
  26. CHAPTER XXIV. DISEASES OF CHILDREN.— (Continued.) under 1 min
  27. Chapter XXV. Promoting And Preserving Health under 1 min
  28. Chapter XXVI. Female Clothing under 1 min
  29. Chapter XXVII. Physical Culture For Women under 1 min
  30. Chapter XXVIII. Home Gymnastics For Women under 1 min
  31. Chapter XXIX. Female Beauty under 1 min
  32. Chapter XXX. Importance Of Dress under 1 min
  33. Chapter XXXI. Woman's Hair Her Chief Ornament under 1 min
  34. Chapter XXXII. Styles Of Wearing The Hair under 1 min
  35. Chapter XXXIII. Modern Methods Of Dressing The Hair under 1 min
  36. Chapter XXXIV. Directions For Treating The Hair under 1 min
  37. Chapter XXXV. Care Of The Teeth And Skin under 1 min
  38. Chapter XXXVI. The Head And Face under 1 min
  39. Chapter XXXVII. The Neck And Limbs under 1 min
  40. Chapter Xxxviii. Food For Invalids under 1 min
  41. Chapter XXXIX. The Best Cosmetics under 1 min
  42. Chapter I about 16 min
  43. Chapter II about 16 min
  44. CHAPTER III. Vi f 3! about 12 min
  45. CHAPTER IV. T blood about 24 min
  46. Chapter V about 9 min
  47. Chapter VI about 39 min
  48. Chapter VIII about 14 min
  49. Chapter IX about 11 min
  50. Chapter X about 11 h 23 min

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Front matter

Book

Copyright^ .

COPYRIGHT DEPOSIT;

Preface

and break that mysterious and profound silence which regards the discussion of this topic as either indecorous or mischievous ?

Therefore, every female should be familiar with the mysteries of her organism, and seek to arrest those abnormal influences which tend to the detriment of her natural vigor and perfection. She should know when and whom to marry — when and how often to bear children. She should be the guardian of her own procreative functions, and the right to refuse sexual commerce when considered repugnant to the instincts of Nature, or when found inimical to her health, beauty and longevity ; she should have the option to bring only lovely and healthy offspring into existence, while she should be taught to look upon sickly and malformed issue as a crime against Nature, and a grevious offense in the sight of mankind.

To facilitate such humane and philanthropic purpose — to elevate the sex to her rightful and natural position from the degraded creature of man's lusts and caprices — to show her how she may retain her loveliness and physical and mental powers to the latest period of human life — and at the same time improve the future races of man, by reformatory and recuperative elements bearing upon the present generation of men and women, worthy of the consideration of every true lover and friend of our species.

For this end this work was written. Accordingly the authors would have their views and sentiments deliberately weighed, and judgment passed upon their performance as it maybe deemed beneficial or prejudical to the general well-being of society.

They sincerely believe with the Sacred Text, "That righteousness exalt eth a nation, and that sin is a reproach to any people" They would especially inculcate the purest virtue and morality, and frown down everything partaking of the prurient^ sensual and revolting. They would save the race from utter debasement, degeneracy and extinction, and replenish the earth with an order of humanity of the highest physical development and the most transcend ant intellectual and spiritual attributes, and thus restore the human creature to his destined position of an Angel of Light, created and fashioned in the image of Deity, the Great Father and Ruler of universal physical and spiritual existences.

Chapter I. Courtship And Marriage

Pleasures of Courtship — Look Before You Leap ! — Marriage Instituted for trie Happiness of Mankind — Power of Generation — All Persons Dependent on Others — A Sacred Compact — Physical and Moral Education of Children — Fidelity to Each Other — Age for Marrying among Ancient Nations — Parents at a Very Early Age — Old Women who Become Mothers — Marriage Conducive to Health and Longevity— Precepts on the Subject of Marriage — Many Infirmities that are not to be Considered . , IT

Chapter II. Physical Laws Of Marriage

Errors Concerning Reproduction — No Reliable Proofs of Virginity — Conditions for Healthy Offspring — Proper Time for Cohabitation — Motives that Influence the Majority of Mankind — Power of Conjugal Love — Disproportions of Size — Irritation of Mucous Membrane — Evils of Early Marriages — Evils of Late Marriages — Physical Debility of Infants — Conjugal Unions should Result from Liberty of Choice — Transmission of Disease — Old Men and Young Women — Authority of Parents and Guardians — Courtship Attentions should always be Honorable • . - '28

Chapter III. Happy And Unhappy" Marriages

Greatest of All Temporal Evils — Many Disappointed Swains and Lassies — Mutual Love and Affection the First Duties of the Married State — Dyspeptic Husbands and Snappy Wives — Similarity of Temper — Cares of Married Life — Happiness Dependent on the Discharge of Duties — Patience under Domes Troubles — Sanctity of the Marriage Vow often Violated — Criminality of Men — Personal Charms — Poverty and Deformity — Miserable Comforters — Home, Sweet Home — Amiable Temper and Sound Judgment — Hasty Temper and Inexpedient Alliances 58

Chapter IV. The Perfect Female Form

Purity of the Blood — Functions of the Lungs — The Diaphragm — Shu., g the Air out of the Lungs — Effects of Tight-Lacing — Compression of the Ribs

ix x CONTENTS.

and Abdominal Walls— Absurdities of Fashion — The Narrowed Waist — The Perfect Nude Figure — Individual Taste and Judgment — Curvature of the Spine — Difference between Girls and Boys — Costume of Greeks and Romans — Fat Waists — The Hip Bones — Victims of Miniature Waists — The Spine and Muscular Weakness — A Reproach upon Nature 46

Chapter V. The Female Pelvis

Situation of the Pelvis — Its Shape and Prominent Parts — What the Abdominal Cavity Includes — Fallopian Tubes and Ovaries — Differences between the Male and Female Pelvis — The Peritoneum — Age at which the Pelvis is Fully Developed — Napkins Applied to Infants — Injury from Constriction — A Deformed Pelvis — Rickets and Softening of the Bones 61

Chapter VI. Female Organs Of Generation

Internal and External Organs — Mons Veneris — External Labia — The Clitoris — Excessive Length — Delicate Mucous Membrane — Hymen, or Vaginal Valve — The Vagina — Unnatural Membranous Folds — Uterus, or Womb — Various Parts of the Womb— Appendages of the Uterus — Movement of the Cilia — Blood Vessels and Nerves — -Ligaments of the Uterus — The Fallopian Tubes — Pink Layer of Tissue — An Important Ligament — Movement Caused by Contract! on — Two-fold Office of the Tubes — Adhesions and Inflammation 67

Chapter VII. The Human Ovaries

Glands that Form the Female Ova, or Eggs — Ovasacs, or Graafian Vesicles — Structure of Graafian Follicle — Ovary like a Honey-comb — Office of the Ovary — Low T er Animals and Reproduction — Weak Parents and Unhealthy Offspring — Origin of the Graafian Vesicle — Discharge of Ova Periodical in the Human Female — Development of New Ova — Period of Rupture of Follicle and Escape of the Ovum — Changes that Take Place — A Common Stimulus — Dischatge of the Ova without Sexual Congress 83

Chapter VIII. Effect Of Impregnating The Ovum

Extirpating the Ovaries — The Ovum Developed into an Embryo — Two Stages of Existence — Number of Ova — Few Ova Ripen at a Time — How the Ovum is Conveyed Along the Passage of the Fallopian Tubes — Changes After Impregnation — Division of the Yelk — Offices of the Fallo'pian Tubes— When Impregnation is Most Likely to Take Place — Size and Weight of a Fowl's Egg — How the Egg is Pertected 92

Chapter IX. Normal Process Of Menstruation

Menstrual Colics — Careful Treatment for Girls — Critical Period of Youth — Good Nourishment Required— Errors of Ignorance — Causes of Abnormal Derange-

CONTENTS. xi

ment — Habits of Women of Fashion — Absurd Attempts to Conceal Effects of Dissipation — Nervous and Sexual Excitement — Walking the Best Exercise — Mind and Imagination — Victims of Excessive Study 1^1

Chapter X. Our American Girls

What is said by Professor Eoomis — What by Dr. William Hammond — What by Dr. Clark — Effects of Close Application— Sad Story of a Healthy Girl — The Pride of the Family — East Stages of Disease — Exposure to Wet, Heat or Cold — Injuries from External Pressure — Uncleanness to be Avoided — Sources of Health and Disease — Excitement of the Passions — Vain and Harmful Imaginings — Value of Occupation — Causes that Interfere with Menstruation 108

Chapter XI. Wonders Of Generation

Facts and Opinions of Former Writers — A Subject for Wonder and Admiration — Vital Power Derived from the Parent — Vital Principle in Birth — Reproductive Function in Man — Male and Female Forms Contrasted — Influence of Various Temperaments — Prominence of the Lower Brain — Office of the Uterus — Principal Power of Propulsion — Comparison of the Vigorous with the Weak — Microscopic Examination of Spermatozoa — Absurd Theories of Former Times 119

CHAPTER XII. WONDERS OF GENERATION.— (Continued.)

Precise Period of Impregnation Not Known — Old Theory of Conception- Established Facts — Prevention of Conception — False Speculations — Causes of Unnatural Generation — Number of Children at One Birth — Resemblance Among Families— Color of the Parents — Transmission of Disease — Marks and Deformi ties — Curious Freaks of Nature — Finest Possible Progeny — Different Typ, Men — Peculiarities Extending through Successive Generations — Physical and Mental Training — Regulating Color of the Colt — Effects of Violent Emotion . 131

Chapter XIII. Pregnancy Or Gestation

Suppression of the Menses — Shape of the Abdomen — The Quickening — Presence of Milk in the Mammae — Morning Sickness — Signs of Pregnancy According to the Months — Motion of the Child — Number of Days for I a —

Practical Advice — Exercise and Diet — Violent Emotions to be Avoided — E Mental Disturbances — How to Treat Forebodings and Gloom of Mind . . . L48

Chapter XIV, Maladies During Pregnancy

Vomiting After Second or Third Week — How Stomach Troubles are Ag vated — Child Not Affected by Stomach Derangements — Unnatural Longings — The Most Effective Treatment— What the Diet Should Consist of— Fru 3 Coarse Food— Flatulence and Colic — Use of Domestic Medicines — Treatment for Hemorrhoids — What Occasions Shortness ot Breath — Palpitation ot the Heart — xii CONTENTS.

Dangers Connected with Fainting — Congestive Headache — Sleeplessness — Signs of the Death of the Foetus — Periodical Habit of the Womb — Remedies for Threatened Abortion 157

Chapter XV. Labor— Its Proper Treatment

Articles Needed by Mother and Child — A Monthly Nurse — Nurses that Worry their Patients — How to Prepare the Bed — Notifying the Physician and Nurse — Two Stages of Labor — Use of Cathartics — Company to be Excluded — Directions to be Observed — The Afterbirth — Why the Child Does Not Breathe — Treatment of the New-born Babe — Danger of Milk — Use of Chloroform — Saving the Patient from Exhaustion — Medical Skill Indispensable. . . . • .... 175

Chapter XVI. Lactation Or Food For Infants

Natural Mode of Feeding — Distention of the Mother's Breasts — Remedies for It—Causes that Affect the Milk— Quality of the Food— Articles of Diet and Medicine — Use of Nipple-glasses — Symptoms of Overnursirg — Mother's Milk the Best Nourishment — Malformation of the Nipple — How to Develop the Flow of Milk — Ointments Mixed with Minerals — When the Wetnurse is Needed — Teaching the Child Regular Habits — Reasons for Children's Crying — Best Time for Weaning the Child — Cold Air and Gathered Breasts — Sore Mouth and Eyes . 191

Chapter XVII. The Change Of Life

Those who Conform to Judicious Rules have only Blessings to Expect — Morbid Impulses at this Period — An Illusion Destroyed — Less of Food and Stimulants — Best Kind of Diet — Forming Habits of Intoxication — Advantages of a Healthy Skin — Necessity of Exercise — Curious Effect of the Mind on the Body — Nervous Irritation and Sleeplessness — Peevishness and Ill-temper — Getting Well too Soon — Charms of Mature Life — Peace and Tranquility of Mind .... 210

Chapter XVIII. Diseases Of Women

Delayed Menstruation — Symptoms of Suppression — Hygienic Treatment — Predisposing Causes — Debilitating Maladies — Effects of Long Continued Suppression — Dangerous Hemorrhages — Self Examination — Remedies of Proved Value — Difference between Retention and Suppression — Due to Organic Causes — Signs of Chlorosis — Effects of this Disease — Curable with Proper Treatment 222

CHAPTER XIX. DISEASES OF WOMEN— (Continued)

Too Great a Discharge at Menstruation — Normal Amount Dependent on Constitution and Temperament — How the System is Weakened by Menorrhagia — Accidental Causes — Deficiency of Vitality— Remedies that are Recommended — Painful Menstruation — Capacity to Endure Pain — Symptoms of a Violent

CONTENTS. xiii

Character — Ovaries Involved — Condition During Intervals — How to Obtain Relief — Keeping the Body at Rest — Leucorrhoea or "Whites'" — Constitutional Disturbance — Exposure to Heat or Cold — Course of the Disease — Effect of Long Continuance : — Malady Often Neglected 232

CHAPTER XX. DISEASES OF WOMEN— (Concluded)

Causes of Prolapsus or Displacement of the Womb — Weakness of Ligaments Supporting this Organ — Disagreeable Sensations — How to Treat Displacements — Weight of Clothing to be Hung from Shoulders — Deluded Women who Declare they Never Dress Tightly — Anteversion of the Womb — How to Treat It — Retroversion of the Womb — The First Thing to be Done — Inflammation of the Vagina — Weight and Fullness — Common to All Periods of Woman's Life — Pain and Soreness — Causes of Inflammation — Various Morbid Conditions — Hot Water and Sitz Baths 248

Chapter XXI. Healthy And Robust Children

Relation of Mind to Body — Sound Mind in a Sound Body — As the Parents Are, So Are the Children — Mental Development — Reason and Action — Four Stages of Life — Perfection of Woman's Organs — Common Mistake in Education — Dangerous Vices to be Avoided — Ideal Commandment of Christianity — Temptation and Theft — Instinct of the Animal Life — Joining Children in their Sports — Why Children Lie — Mother and. Son — "Smart'' Children — Teaching Young People the Golden Rule — Miss Beecher on Early Education '2o\)

Chapter XXII. Physical Training Of Children

Health Largely Dependent on the Skin — Frictions and Bathing — Effect of Cold Water Plunges — Cold, Tepid and Warm Baths — Plain Rules to be Observed — Nothing Indelicate About a Girl's Romping — Skipping the Rope — Regular Hours of Eating — Abundance of Sleep — School Days — Children Study too Much — Health of American People — Woman's Rights and Woir Muscle — Development of the Mind — Flocks of "Sick Crows'' — Inconsistency of Human Nature — What Dress is Intended For — Apparatus for Heating Houses — Effect of Pressure and Tight Lacing 270

Chapter XXIII. Diseases Of Children

Irritation — Intestinal Canal — Fear May Produce Convulsions — 1" ects

of Fright — Different Temperaments of Children — The Human Face — Derangement of the Stomach — Inflammation of the Brain — Evidence of Impoverished Blood — Teething — Period of Cutting Teeth — Use of Mild Laxative— Treatment for Convulsions — Directions Concerning Milk *64 k o xiv CONTENTS.

CHAPTER XXIV. DISEASES OF CHILDREN.— (Continued.)

Cholera Infantum — Symptoms — Causes — First Step in the Treatment — Slaughtered by Dosing with Medicine — Scarlet Fever — Three Varieties— Symptoms Very Pronounced — Malignant Form — Absence of Eruptions — How to Treat the Fever — Prompt Remedies Required — Measles — Symptoms — Eruptions — The Attack — Remedies for the Disease — Croup — Cause — Usual Symptoms — Treatment — Whooping Cough 294

Chapter XXV. Promoting And Preserving Health

Necessity of Pure Air — Horrors of a Small Pox Room — Importance of Sanitation — Sunlight as an Agent of Health — Disease Caused by Darkness— Sleep a Necessity — John Wesley an Early Riser — Absurdities of Dreams— Baths of Different Kinds — Repairing Physical Waste — Importance of Exercise — Effects of Excessive Fatigue — Benefits of Walking — Injuries Caused by W T altzing — Advantages of Rowing— Directions for Doctoring Sea Sickness 305

Chapter XXVI. Female Clothing

Nature's Selection of Coverings for Animals — Heat Radiates from the Body — How Plants are Protected — Superfluous Article of Dress — Clothing of Special Parts of the Body — The Trunk — Extremities — Apparel Made of Flannel — Deformed Feet — Precepts Concerning Dress — Prejudice Against Wearing Wool —Clothes Bespeak the Man 321

Chapter XXVII. Physical Culture For Women

Appliances and Machines for Physical Development — None are Absolutely Necessary — Science of Breathing — Checkley on Lung Expansion — Exercises for Arms and Shoulders — How to Train the Muscles — Famous Swedish Movements — How Women Should Dress — Fexible Action Necessary — How to Sit Gracefully— " Manual of Arms "—Thrusts— Lunges 331

Chapter XXVIII. Home Gymnastics For Women

Weak Lungs and Imperfect Digestion — Walking in the Open Air — Easy to Learn How to Breathe — Exercises Requiring Vibration — Another System of Physical Culture — How to Strengthen the Lower Limbs — Supposed Consumptive Lived to be over Ninety — How the Blood Gets the Air — The Pleura — Structure of the Heart 345

Chapter XXIX. Female Beauty

Value of Female Beauty — Prized by the Ancients — Wonderful Influence of Women — Strange Customs of Savages — What is Natural to Women — No Woman Need be Ugly— Girls Expect to be Married — Little Offered in Exchange for Mar.

CONTENTS. xv

riage — Health and Beauty to be Coveted — Scandal Loving Old Maids — Troubles of the Shy Girl — Girls who are Called Stupid — Plain but Witty — Disappointment of Suitors — Absurdities of Dress — Old Women who are Terribly Thin . . . 354

Chapter XXX. Importance Of Dress

Any Kind of Dress Becoming to Some Persons — Vulgar Taste — Individual Taste Suppressed — Tied to Ignorant Fashion — Taste should Harmonize with Character — Simple Laws to be Observed— Nude Figures in Sculpture and Paint ing — Novel Forms of Attire — Too Many Flounces and Furbelows — What is Becoming to Different Persons — Evils of Extravangance 371

Chapter XXXI. Woman's Hair Her Chief Ornament

Modifications of Style — Facial Outlines — Admired of All Beholders — Structure of the Hair — Root and Shaft — Varieties of Color — Corresponds with Color of Skin — Indications of Temperament — Samson's flowing Locks — The "Bear Woman" — Hair Charged with Electricity — Hair Distributed over the Body — Special Purposes Served — Beautiful Hair Praised by the Poets 383

Chapter XXXII. Styles Of Wearing The Hair

Particular Nations Distinguished by Mode of Dressing Hair — Early Period — Mediaeval Period — Tresses Perfumed and Pomaded — Fashion in Queen Elizabeth's Reign — Ancient Mode of Dyeing the Hair — Ringlets and Ribbons — Good Sense and Taste — Crape Cushion and Ostrich Feathers — Jewish Women — Spanish Artists 399

Chapter XXXIII. Modern Methods Of Dressing The Hair

Mistakes in Hair Dressing — Suggestions for Grace and Beauty — Oriental Customs — Eike the Tail of a Peacock — Chinese Females — Black, Glossy Ringlets — Manner of Tingeing the Hair — Dancing Girls of India — Style of Empress Eugenia ' 4"7

Chapter XXXIV. Directions For Treating The Hair

Baldness and Premature Gray Hair — Deficient Action of the Bulb — Causes of Hair Suddenly Turning Gray — Lines by Lord Byron — Trick Played on a Spanish Officer — The Ghost in Hamlet — Baldness and its Causes — Common Among Men — White Hair and Old Age— Varieties of Disease— Hygienic Treatment — Cleanliness and Friction — Locks Straight and Flaccid — Mrs, C Poem— Decline of the Health of the Scalp— The Shuttle Movement— Scalp Massage — How to Shampoo the Hair 414 xvi CONTENTS.

Chapter XXXV. Care Of The Teeth And Skin

Artificial Teeth Used by the Ancients — Staining the Teeth of Boys and Girls — First Teeth Cut in First Two Years — Period of Teething a Trying One — Common Neglect of the Teeth — Bad Habits of Breathing — Antiseptics Recommended — Rinsing the Mouth — Substances to be Avoided — Causes of Premature Decay — What is Seen Under the Microscope — Pure Sugar and Sweets — Structure of the Teeth — Cause of Toothache — Commencement of Second Set — Use of Tooth Powder — Treatment of the Gums — Structure of the Skin — Main Object of Treating Burns — Perspiration According to Weather — Unhealthy Countenance 427

Chapter XXXVI. The Head And Face

Beauty of the Human Head — Vicious Practice Among Nurses and Mothers- Eruptions on the Forehead — Facial Expression and Charms — Meaning of the Eye Colors — What Forms a Beautiful Eye — Peculiarities of Sight — Various Defects of Vision — Cure for Squinting — Remedy for Ophthalmia — How to Strengthen the Sight — Effects of Irritating Substances — Treating the Eyebrows — Well-formed Nose Essential to Beauty — Handsome Grecian Nose — Napoleon's Idea of the Best Nose — Beautiful Mouth and Lips 446

Chapter XXXVII. The Neck And Limbs

Delicacy and Beauty of the Arm— Character Indicated by the Thumb — Neglect of the Hands — Distorted Joints and Fingers — Treatment of the Finger Nails — What to do for Chilblains — Magic Cure for Warts — Health and Beauty of Feet — Feeble State of Circulation — Treatment of Corns — Pumice Stone -and Adhesive Plasters 462

Chapter Xxxviii. Food For Invalids

Some Don'ts for the Sick-room — Cracked Ice — Nourishing Drinks — Preparations with Eggs — Broths for Sick Persons — Beef Tea — Gruels for the Sick — Solid Foods — Oysters and Sweetbreads — Sweet Dishes — Jellies and Custards — The Medicine Chest — Good Cooking — Antidotes for Poisons 478

Chapter XXXIX. The Best Cosmetics

The Face the Index of the Mind — Smoothing Out Wrinkles — Face Humors Repulsive — Daubs of Paint and Enamel — Injuries from Hard Substances — A Beautiful Bosom — Directions for Massage — When to Avoid Cosmetics — Prescription for the Complexion 501

THE GUARDIAN ANGEL

Chapter I

OURTSHIP, in which the gentleman does the agreeable, is a very pleasant thing. It is so delightful in itself that many persons never go further.

It consists in much billing and cooing, in serenading, and in walks by the lonely lake, or unfrequented path, in the moonlight stroll upon the lawn, or the whispered conversation in the recess of the window, in interchanges of love, eternal fidelity, etc. Love makes all harmonize.

The coy maiden, it is true, will be very shy for a while, but " faint heart never won fair lady."

Yes, a certain brisk confidence must be assumed, for a lady delights in an ardent lover, and many such have triumphed when others have failed. For this reason, perhaps, successful villains, who have much practice in the wiles that gain woman's heart, are more likely to gain their ends than he who truly loves, but is deterred bv bashfulness ; while, in many cases, woman has loved " not wisely but too well." Yea, under the fairest pretenses, women have been deceived, and under a promise of. marriage have permitted the familiarities which prudence, virtue and custom alike reserve for the marriage state. Thus, many a fair confiding girl is lost to purity, virtue and happiness, robbed by a heartless villain of all that is most dear to woman, while might have shone as a star in society.

Courtship is a perilous period, inasmuch as human nature is not altogether perfect. Many there are who have begun well. They have continued to do well for days and months, or perhaps for years ; but at length giving way to a momentary impulse, the saddest of all accidents has occurred, and such as cannot be repaired. Let no one think that we exaggerate. Courtship is but a thorny state after all. It has three stages. The first when the parties meet, and ogling interchange of glances, and a few hurried words take place. The second, when the wmole frame thrills with the exquisitely delicious and melting emotion of the first kiss ! when the engagement ring is placed on the finger.

The third, is that in which " the consummation so devoutly to be wished," by plighted lovers who long for the wedding day and the sweets of dear felicitous love in the marriage state.

The first two stages are attended with many hours of pleasure and few moments of pain — many enchanting meetings and regretful partings The third stage is not without danger, and should be pushed on to a conclusion as rapidly as circumstances will allow.

LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP.

In courtship, there should be a great degree of respect paid to each other by the affianced parties, who are one day to become man and wife. They should u look before they leap," count all the cost, and have their minds fully made up, to all the consequences and responsibilities which the married state involves. They naturally will think that all is to be joy and gladness, peace and " bliss — exquisite bliss," in the possession of each other.

Experience, however, has shown to many, that happiness is not a plant of quick growth, and many who might have averted it, with prudent foresight, have had to lament an ill-assorted marriage ere the " honey-moon " had waned. Otherwise, and upon the whole, perhaps courtship is a state of much felicity, and one which the wedded pair will look back to with delight, if in it they have had mutual respect and esteem, and still maintain the integrity of such true sentiments and fidelity. Thus the enjoyment of reciprocal love is full of bliss on the threshold of matrimony which is yet an unexplored region.

This constitutes courtship. Hence, the first step must be made by the man, for the initiative should not be taken by the fair lady, for it is indelicate, unusual and unnatural, except perhaps in Leap Year ! The male must woo, while the lady must be wooed in order to be won. Madame de Stael, speaking of courtship, says : —

" How enchanting is the first gleam of intelligence with her we love ! Before memory comes in to share with hope, before words have expressed the sentiments, before eloquence has been able to paint what we feel, there is in these first moments a certain kind of tumult and mystery in the imagination, more transitory than happiness, but still more heavenly."

Marriage is a natural, religious, civil, and legal contract, wisely instituted for the happiness of mankind.

Man was born for society ; his condition, faculties, and propensities require that he should associate with other men. At every period of his life he stands in need, and wants the assistance of others. If we look to the infantile state, we observe that the new-born babe cannot long exist unless by the sedulous care of its parents or others, who protect, clothe, and nourish it. Were it left naked on the ground, exposed to the inclemency of the air, destroyed by hunger, or left a prey to ferocious animals, it must speedily perish. If we follow it through childhood, we find, that, unless it is directed by the advice of others of its species and assisted by them, it would be little better than an irrational animal.

POWER OP GENERATION.

When the human being arrives at the adult age, he possesses th e power of generation, and is bound to protect, support, and cherish the individual who co-operates with him, in perpetuating his species ; and hence originates society.

Finally, when old age commences, the same imbecilit} r , the same infirmity recurs as in infancy ; therefore, if society did not exist, the human being would fall to the ground, would be affected with various diseases, unalleviated by remedies, he could have no food, and must be destroyed by hunger.

It therefore follows, that the condition of man, at all periods of life, requires the care of his fellow creatures. His faculties, reason, sens voice, gestures, and capacity for learning the arts and sciences, require the benefits of civil society. The offices, by which we are bound to all other men, arise from the duties of humanity, or draw their origin from society.

Domestic society is that which exists between certain individti who, by relationship, or contrast, form one family, which is necessary to

COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE.

man, and was destined for him by nature ; for, without this, the human race could not be propagated or preserved. Domestic society is again divided into conjugal, paternal, and filial.

Conjugal society is a perpetual compact between man and woman to live together in mutual love and friendship, and to aid each other by

mutual succor for the course of life.

The diversity of the sexes was instituted for this purpose ; and there is an innate desire implanted in both to perpetuate their species, their nature, and to transfer their property to their children.

Marriage was instituted by the Divine Creator in the time of man's primitive innocence, as the means of his happiness, and the perpetuation of his race.

The wisdom of its institution has been felt and acknowledged in every age.

Man found by experience it was not good for him to be alone, or to lead a life of a proposal — what shall the answer be ? celibacy or isolated

selfishness. Marriage does not, however, restrict its beneficial influence to individuals, but extends to states and kingdoms. " It is," says Jeremy Taylor, " the mother of the world, and preserves kingdoms, and fills cities, churches, and even heaven itself." It is the primitive source of morals and of society, and offers incalculable securities to governments. It presents matter of important consideration to the statesman, the divine, the lawyer and the physician.

Of all the social institutions, there is none which exercises so great an influence upon states as marriage. Every state is composed of families, and these are the result of conjugal unions. The prosperity of a nation depends upon the strength and vigor of its inhabitants, which are powerfully influenced by the comparative perfection of the marriage and bastardy laws. These again have great effect on the morals and civilization of society, the rights of persons and property ; and even sceptres and thrones are alike dependent upon them.

It was, therefore, wisely ordained that marriage should be a sacred compact, for which those engaging in it ^should forsake their nearest relations and friends. The parties contracting it form the strictest union and nearest relation that can be established between two individuals ; their temporal concerns are identical, and consequently marriage is universally considered the source of the greatest comfort and most perfect enjoyment on earth, securing all the advantages of sincere friendship, and the reciprocal offices of true and tender affection. The parties entering into this state, vow mutual love, fidelity, and friendship.

PHYSICAL AND MORAL EDUCATION OF CHILDREN.

It was therefore most wisely ordained in the beginning of time, that " a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife, and they shall be two in one flesh." The only motive that virtue allows, besides the selection of an individual of the opposite sex, for the mutual succor necessary in the management of the affairs of life, are the perpetuation of the species, and the physical and moral education of children, so that they may enjoy health, render due homage and reverence to the omnipotent and beneficent Author of the universe, and become useful members of the human family.

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