Common Sense about Women

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I. Too HUCH Natural Histort .

II. Darwin, Huxley, and Bucklb

I. Too Much Natural History

Lord Melbourne, speaking of the fine ladies in London who were fond of talking alK)ut their ailments, used to complain that they gave him too much of their natural history. There are a good many writers — usually men — who, with the best intentions, discuss woman as if she had merely a physical organization, and as if she existed only for one object, the production and rearing of children. Against this some protest may well be made.

Doubtless there are few things more important to a community than the health of its women. The Sandwich-Island proverb says : —

*'If strong is the frame of the mother, The son will give laws to the people."

And, in nations where all men give laws, all men need mothers of strong frames.

Moreover, there is no harm in admitting that all the rules of organization are imperative ; that soul and body, whether of man or woman, are made in harmony, so that each part of our nature must accept the limitations of the other. A man's soul may yearn to the stars ; but so long as the body cannot jump so high, he must accept the body's veto. It is the same with any veto interposed in advance by the physical structure of woman. Nobody objects to this general principle. It is only when clerical gentlemen or physiological gentlemen undertake to go a step farther, and put in that veto on their own responsibility, that it is necessary to say, "Hands off, gentlemen! Precisely because women are women, they, not you, are to settle that question."

One or two points are clear. Every specialist is liable to overrate his own specialty ; and the man who thinks of woman only as a wife and mother is apt to forget, that, before she was either of these, she was a human being. ''Women, as such,'' says an able writer, '' are constituted for purposes of maternity and the continuation of mankind." Undoubtedly, and so were men, as such, constituted for paternity. But very much depends on what relative importance we assign to the phrase, " as such." Even an essay so careful, so moderate, and so free from coarseness, as that here quoted, suggests, after all, a slight one-sidedness, — perhaps a natural re-action from the one-sidedness of those injudicious reformei-s who allow themselves to speak slightingly of ' ' the merely animal function of child-bearing." Higher than either — wiser than both put together — is that noble statement with which Jean Paul begins his fine essay on the education of girls in " Levana." " Before being a wife or mother, one is a human being ; and neither motherly nor wifely destina-

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tion can overbalance or replace the human, but must become its means, not end. As above the poet, the painter, or the hero, so above the mother, does the human being rise pre-eminent/'

Here is sure anchorage. We can hold to this. And, fortunately, all the analogies of nature sustain this position. Throughout nature the laws of sex nile everywhere ; but they rule a kingdom of their own, always subordinate to the greater kingdom of the vital functions. Every creature, male or female, finds in its sexual relations only a sul)ordinate part of its existence. The need of food, the need of -exercise, the joy of living, these come fii^t, and absorb the bulk of its life, whether the individual be male or female. This Antiope butterfly, that flits at this moment past my window, — the first of the season, — spends almost all its existence in a form where the distinction of sex lies dormant : a few days, I might almost say a few hours, comprise its whole sexual consciousness, and the majority of its race die before reaching that epoch. The law of sex is written absolutely through the whole insect world. Yet everywhere it is written as a secondary and subordinate law. The life which is common to the sexes is the l^rincipal life ; the life which each sex leads, '' as such," is a minor and subordinate thing.

The same rule pervades nature. Two riders pass down the street before my window. One rides a horse, the other a mare. The animals were perhaps foaled in the same stable, of the same progenitors. They have been reared alike, fed alike, trained alike, ridden alike ; they need the same exercise, the same grooming ; nine tenths of their existence are the same, and only the

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other tenth is different. Their whole organization is inarke<l by the distinction of sex: bnt<. though the marking is ineffaceable, the distinction is not the first or most im[x>rtant fact.

If this lie tnie of the lower animals, it is far more true of the higher. The mental and moral laws of the universe touch us first and chiefly as human beings. We eat our breakfasts as human bein^ics, not as men and women ; and it is the same with nine tenths of our interests and duties in life. In legislating or philosophizing for woman, we must neither forget that she has an organization distinct from that of man, nor must we exaggerate the fact. Not '" first the womanly and then the human," but first the human and then the womanly, is to be the order of her training.

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II. Darwin, Huxley, And Buckle

"When any woman, old or young, asks the question, Which among all modern books ought I to read first? the answer is plain. She should read Buckle *s lecture before the Royal Institution upon *' The Influence of Woman on the Progress of Knowledge." It is one of two papers contained in a thin volume called •"'Essaj^s by Henry Thomas Buckle.*' As a means whereby a woman may become convinced that her sex has a place in the intellectual universe, this little essay is almost indispensable. Nothing else takes its place.

Darwin and Huxley seem to make woman simply a lesser man, weaker in body and mind, — an affectionate and docile animal, of inferior grade. That there is any aim in the distinction of the sexes, beyond the perpetuation of the race, is nowhere recognized by them, so far as I know. That there is any thing in the intellectual sphere to correspond to the physical difference ; that here also the sexes are equal yet diverse, and the natural completion and complement of the other, — this neither Huxley nor Darwin explicitly recognizes. And with the utmost admiration for their gre«,t teachings in other ways, I must think that here they are open to the suspicion of narrowness.

Huxley wrote in ''The Reader," in 1864, a short paper called "Emancipation — Black and White," in which, while taking generous ground in behalf of the legal and political position of woman, he yet does it pityingly, de hmU en bas<f as for a creature hopelessly inferior, and so heavily weighted already by her sex, that slie should be spared all further trials. Speaking through an imaginary critic, who seems to represent himself, he denies " even the natural equality of the sexes," and declares "that in every excellent character, whether mental or physical, the average woman is inferior to the average man, in the sense of having that character less in quantity and lower in quality." Finally he goes so far as "to defend the startling paradox that even in physical beauty, man is the superior." He admits that for a brief period of early youth the case may be doubtful, but claims that after thirty the superior beauty of man is unquestionable. Thus reasons Huxley ; the whole essay being included in his volume of "Lay Sermons, Addresses, and Reviews." ^

Darwin's best statements on the subject may be found in his "Descent of Man."^ He is, as usual, more moderate and guarded than Huxley. He says, for instance : " It is generally admitted that with women the powers of intuition, of rapid perception, and perhaps of imitation, are more strongly marked than in man ; but some, at least, of these faculties are characteristic of the lower races, and therefore of a past and lower state of civilization." Then he passes to the usual assertion that man has thus far attained to a higher eminence than woman. "If two lists were

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made of the most eminent men and women in i)oetry, painting, sculpture, music, — comprising composition and performance, — history, science, and philosopliy, with half a dozen names under each subject, the two lists would not l)ear comparison." But the obvious answer, that nearly every name on his list, upon the masculine side, would prol^ably be taken from periods when woman was excluded from any fair competition, — this he does not seem to recognize at all. Darwin, of all men, must admit that superior merit generally arrives later, not earlier, on the scene ; and the question for him to answer is, not whether woman equalled man in the first stages of the intellectual '' struggle for life," but whether she is not gaining on him now.

If, in spite of man's enormous advantage in the start, woman has already overtaken his very best performances in several of the highest intellectual departments, — as, for instance, prose fiction and dramatic representation, — then it is mere dogmatism in Mr. Dai'win to deny that she may yet do the same in other departments. We in this generation have actually seen this success achieved by Rachel and Ristori in the one art, by '* George Sand" and ''George Eliot" in the other. . Woman is, then, visibly gaining on man, in the sphere of intellect ; and, if so, Mr. Darwin, at least, must accept the inevitable inference.

But this is arguing the question on the superficial facts merely. Buckle goes deeper, and looks to principles. That superior quickness of women, which Darwin dismisses so lightly as something belonging to savage epochs, is to Buckle the sign of a quality which he holds essential, not only to literature and art, but to science itself. Go among ignorant women, he says, and you will find them more quick and intelligent than equally ignorant men. A woman will usually tell you the way in the street more readily than a man can ; a woman can always understand a foreigner more easily ; and Dr. Currie says in his letters, that when a laborer and his wife came to consult him, he always got all the information from the wife. Buckle illustrates this at some length, and points out that a woman's mind is by its nature deductive and quick ; a man's mind, inductive and slow ; that each has its value, and that science profoundly needs both.

" I will endeavor," he says, " to establish two propositions. First, that women naturally prefer the deductive method to the inductive. Secondly, that women, by encouraging in men deductive habits of thought, have rendered an immense though unconscious service to the progress of science, by preventing scientific investigators from being as exclusively inductive as they would otherwise be."

Then he shows that the most important scientific discoveries of modern times — as of the law of gravitation by Newton, the law of the forms of crystals by Haiiy, and the metamorphosis of plants by Goethe — were all essentially the results of that a priori or deductive method, " which, during the last two centuries. Englishmen have unwisely despised." They were all the work, in a manner, of the imagination, — of the intuitive or womanly quality of mind. And nothing can be finer or truer than the words in which Buckle predicts the benefits that are to come from the intellectual union of the sexes for the work of the

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future. '^In that field which we and our posterity have yet to traverse, I firmly believe that the imagination will effect quite as much as the understanding. Our poetry will have to re-enforce our logic, and we must feel quite as much as we must argue. Let us, then, hope that the imaginative and emotional minds of one sex will continue to accelerate the great progress by acting upon and improving the colder and harder minds of the other sex. By this coalition, by this union of different faculties, different tastes, and different methods, we shall go on our way with the greater ease.

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III. Which Is The Stronger?

What is strength, — the brute hardness of iron, or the more delicate strength of steel? Which is the stronger, — the physical frame that can strike the harder blow, or that which can endure the greater strain and yet last longer ? " Man can lift a heavier weight," says a writer on physiology, ''but woman can watch more enduringly at the bedside of her sick child.'* The strain upon the system of all women who have borne and reared children is as great in its way as that upon the system of the carpenter or the woodchopper ; and the power to endure it is as properly to be called strength.

Again, which is the stronger in the domain of will, — the man who carries his points by energy and command, or the woman who carries hers by patience and persuasion? the man in the household who leads tmd decides, or the woman who foresees, guards, manages ? the mother of the family, who puts the commas and semicolons in her children's lives, as Jean Paul Richter says, or the father who puts in the colons and periods ? It may be hard to say which type of strength is the more to be admired, but it is clear that they are both genuine types.

One grows tired of hearing young men who can do

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nothing but row, or swing dumb-bells, and are thrown wholly "off their training'* by the loss of a night's sleep, speak contemptuously of the physical weakness of a woman who can watch with a sick i)er8on half a dozen nights together. It is absurd to hear a man who is prostrated by a single reverse in business speak of being "encumbered" with a wife who can perhaps alter the habits of a lifetime more easily than he can abandon his half-dollar cigars. It is amusing to read the criticisms of languid and graceful masculine essayists on the want of vigorous intellect in the sex that wrote "Aurora Leigh" and " Middlemarch " and "Consuelo."

It may be that a man's strength is not a woman's, or a woman's strength that of a man. I am arguing for equivalence, not identity. The greater part played in the phenomena of woman's strength by sensibility and impulse and variations and tears — this does not affect the matter. What I have never been able to see is, that woman as such is, in the long-run and tried by all the tests, a weaker being than man. And it would seem that any man, in proportion as he lives longer and sees more of life, must have the conceit taken out of him by actual contact with some woman — be she mother, sister, wife, daughter, or friend — who is not only as strong as himself in all substantial regards, but it may be, on the whole, a little stronger.

IV. THE SPmiT OF SMALL TYRANNY

When Mr. John Smauker and tlie Bath footmen invited Sam Weller to their *' swarry," consisting of a boiled leg of mutton, each guest had some expression of contempt and wrath for the hum])le little greengrocer who served them, — '^ in the trtie spirit," Dickens saj^s, "of the very smallest tyranny.'* The veiy fact that they were subject to l^eing ordered about in their own persons gave them a peculiar delight in issujng tyrannical orders to others : just as sophomores in college torment freshmen because other sophomores once teased the present tormentors themselves ; and Irishmen denouyce tiie Chinese for underbidding them in the labor-market, precisely as they were themselves denounced by native-born Americans thirty years ago. So it has sometimes seemed to me that the men whose own positions and claims are really least commanding are those who hold most resolutely that women should be kept in their proper place of subordination.

A friend of mine maintains the theory that men large and strong in person are constitutionally inclined to do justice to women, as fearing no competition from them in the way of bodily strength ; but tliat small and weak men are apt to be vehemently opposed to any thing like equality in the sexes. He quotes in defence of

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his theory the big soldier in London who justified himself for allowing his little wife to chastise him, on the ground that it pleased her and did not hurt him ; and on the other hand cites the extreme domestic tyranny of the dwarf Quilp. He declares that in any diflicult excursion among woods and mountains, the guides and the able-bodied men are often willing to have women join the party, while it is sure to be opposed by tliosc who doubt their own strength or are relu(?tant to display their weakness. It is not necessary to go so far as my friend goes ; but many will remember some fact of this kind, making such theories apiK»ar not quite so absurd as at first.

Thus it seems from the "Life and Letters" of Sydney Dobell, the English poet, that he was opposed both to woman suffrage and woman authorship, believing the movement for the former to be a '' blundering on to the perdition of womanhood." It appears that against all authorship by women his convictions yearly grew stronger, he regarding it as "an error and an anomaly.'* It seems quite in accordance with my friend's theory to hear, after this, that Sydney Dobell was slight in person and a life- long invalid ; nor is it surprising, on the same theory, that his poetry took no deep root, and that it will not be likely to survive long, except perhaps in his weird ballad of "Ravelstou." But he represents a large class of masculine intellects, of secondary and mediocre quality, whose opinions on this subject are not so much opinions as instinctive prejudices against a competitor who may turn out their superior. Whether they know it, or not, their aversion to the authorship of women is very much like the convietion of a weak pedestrian, that women are not naturally fitted to take long walks ; or the opinion of a man whose own accounts are in a muddle, that his wife is constitutionally unfitted to understand business.

It is a pity to praise either sex at the expense of the other. The social inequality of the sexes was not produced so much by the voluntary tyranny of man, as by his great practical advantage at the outset ; human history necessarily beginning with a period when physical strength was sole ruler. It is unnecessary, too, to consider in how many cases women may have justified this distrust ; and may have made themselves as obnoxious as Horace Walpole's maids of honor, whose coachman left his savings to his son on condition that he should never marry a maid of honor. But it is safe to say that on the whole the feeling of contempt for women, and the love to exercise arbitrary power over them, is the survival of a crude impulse which the world is outgrowing, and which is in general least obvious in the manliest men. That clear and able English writer, AValter Bagehot, well describes ' " the contempt for physical weakness and for women which marks early society. The non-combatant population is sure to fare ill during the ages of combat. But these defects, too, are cured or lessened ; women have now marvellous means of winning their way in the world ; and mind without muscle has far greater force than muscle with' out mind." ^

1 Physics and Politics, p. 79.

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V. "the Noble Sex."

A HIGHLY educated American woman of my acquaintance once employed a French tutor in Paris, to assist her in teaching Latin to her little grandson. The Frenchman brought witli him a Latin grammar, written in his own language, with which my friend was quite pleased, until she came to a passage relating to the masculine gender in nouns, and claiming grammatical precedence for it on the ground that the male sex is the noble sex, — " fe sexe noble,*' " Upon that,'* she said, '' I burst forth in indignation, and the poor teacher soon retired. But I do not believe,*' she added, '' that the Frenchman has the slightest conception, up to this moment, of what I could find in that phrase to displease me."

1 do not suppose he could. From the time when the Salic Law set French women aside from the royal succession, on the ground that the kingdom of France was "too noble to be ruled bv a woman," the claim of nobility has been all on one side. The State has strengthened the Church in this theory, tlie Church has strengthened the State ; and the result of ail is, that French grammarians follow both these high authorities. When even the good P^re Hyacinthe teaches, through the New York Independent, that the husband is to direct the conscience of his wife, precisely as the father directs that of his child, what higher philosophy can you expect of any Frenchman than to maintain the claims of " fe sexe noble " ?

We see the consequence, even among the most heterodox Frenchmen. Rejecting all other precedents and authorities, the poor Communists still held to this. Consider, for instance, this translation of a marriage-contract under the Commune, which lately came to light in a trial reported in the "Gazette des Tribunaux: "

FRENCH REPUBLIC.

The citizen Aiiet, son of Jean Louis Anet, and the cUoyenne Maria Saint ; she engaged to follow the said citizen everywhere and to love him always. — Anet. Mabia Saint.

Witnessed by the under-mentioned citizen and citoyenne. —

FOUBIEK. LABOCHE.

Paris, April 22, 1871.

What a comfortable arrangement is -this ! Poor citoyenne Maria Saint, even when all human laws have suspended their action, still holds by her grammar, still must annex herself to le sexe noble. She still must follow citizen Anet as the feminine pronoun follows the masculine, or as a verb agrees with its nominative case in number and in person. But with what a lordly freedom from all obligation does citizen Anet, representative of this nobility of sex, accept the allegiance ! The citizeness may *' follow him," certainly, — so long as she is not in the way, — and she must '' love him always ; " but he is not bound. Why should he be ? It would be quite ungraramatical.

Yet, after all is said and done, there is a brutal hon-

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esty in this frank subordination of the woman according to the grammar. It has the same merit with the old Russian marriage-consecration : '' Here, wolf, take thy lamb," which at least put the thing clearly, and made no nonsense about it. I do not know that anywhere in France the wedding ritual is now so severely simple as thaf, but I know that in some rural villages of that country the bride is still married in a mourning-gown. I should think she would be.

VI. Physiological Croaking

A VERY old man once came to King Agis of Sparta, to lament over the degeneracy of the times. The king replied, " What you say must be true ; for I remember that when I was a boy, I heaixl my father say that when he was a boy, he heard my grandfather say the same thing."

It is a sufficient answer to most of the croakers, that doubtless the same things have been said in every generation since the beginning of recorded time. Till within twenty years, for instance, it has been the accepted theory, that civilized society lost in vigor what it gained in refinement. This is now generally admitted to be a delusion growing out of the fact that civilization keeps alive many who would have died under barbarism. These feebler persons enter into the average, and keep down the apparent health of the community ; but it is the triumph of civilization that they exist at all. I am inclined to think, that when we come to compare the nineteenth century with the seventeenth, as regards the health of women and the size of families, we shall find much the same result.

We look around us, and see many invalid or childless women. We say the Pilgrim mothers were not like these. We cheat ourselves by this perpetual worship of the pioneer grandmother. How the young bachelors, who write dashing articles in the newspapers, denounce

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theii* " nervous '* sisters, for instance, and belabor them with cruel memories of their ancestors ! "The great-grandmother of this ]ielpless creature, very likely, was a pioneer in tlie woods ; reared a family of twelve or thirteen children ; spun, scrubbed, wove, and cooked ; lived to eighty-five, with iron muscles, a broad chest and keen, clear eyes." But no one can study the genealogies of our older New England families without noticing how many of the aunts and sisters and daughters of this imaginary Amazon died young. I think there may be the same difference between the households of to-day and the Puritan households that there is confessedly between the American families and the Irish : fewer children are bom, but more suiTive.

And is it so sure that the families are diminishing, even as respects the number of children born ? This is a simple question of arithmetic, for wliich the materials are being rapidly accumulated by the students of family history. Let each person take the lines of descent which are nearest to himself, to begin with, and compare the number of children born in successive generations. I have, for instance, two such tables at hand, representing two of the oldest New England families, which meet in the same family of children in this generation.

FIRST TABLE.

CHILDREN

First generation (emigrated 1629) ... 9

Second generation 7

Third generation 7

Fourth generation 8

Fifth generation 7

Sixth generation 10

Average .8

SECOND TABLE.

CHILDTtlSK.

First generation (emigrated 1636) . . .10

Second generation 7

Third generation 14

Fourth generation 7

Fifth generation 6

Sixth generation 4

Seventh generation 10

Average 8.29

It will be seen that the last generation exhibits the largest family in the first line, and almost the largest — much bej'ond the average — in the other.

Now, when we consider the great change in all the habits of living, since the Puritan days, and all the vicissitudes to which a single line is exposed, — a whole household being sometimes destroyed by a single hereditary disease, — this is certainly a fair exhibit. These two genealogies were taken at random, because they happened to be nearest at hand. But I suspect any extended examination of genealogies, either of the Puritan families of New England, or the Dutch families of New York, would show much the same result. Some of the descendants of the old Stuyvesant race, for instance, exhibit in this generation a physical vigor which it is impossible that the doughty governor himself could have surpassed.

There are undoubtedly many moral and physiological sins committed, tending to shorten and weaken life ; but the progress of knowledge more than counterbalances them. No man of middle age can look at a class of students from our older colleges without seeing them to be physically superior to the same number of college

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boys taken twenty-five years ago. The organization of girls being far more delicate and complicated, the same reform reaches them more promptly, but it reaches them at last. The little girls of the present day eat better food, wear more healthful clothing, and breathe more fresh air, than their mothers did. The introduction of india-rubber boots and waterproof cloaks alone has fijiven a fresh lease of life to multitudes of women, who otherwise would have been kept housed whenever there was so much as a sprinkling of rain.

It is desirable, certainly, to venerate our grandmothers ; but I am inclined to think, on the whole, that their great-granddaughtera will be the best.

VII. The Truth About Our Grandmothers

Every young woman of the present generation, so soon as she ventures to have a headache or a set of nerves, is immediately confronted by indignant critics with her grandmother. If the grandmother is living, the fact of her existence is appealed to : if there is only a departed grandmother to remember, the maiden is confronted with a ghost. That ghost is endowed with as many excellences as those with which Miss Betsey Trotwood endowed the niece that never had been born ; and, as David Copperfield was reproached with the virtues of his unborn sister who " would never have run away," so that granddaughter with the headache is reproached with the ghostly perfections of her grandmother, who never had a headache — or, if she had, it is luckily forgotten. It is necessary to ask, sometimes, what was really the truth about our grandmothers ? Were they such models of bodily perfection as is usually claimed?